Are we good enough?

The expectations of toxic masculinity also can come with a series of goals. I’m sure many of us have heard our father figures asking: “Have you got a job yet?”; “When are you going to find someone?”; or “You want to get on the housing ladder before it’s too late!”

Having goals can be a good thing. It can motivate and focus us. The important thing is that they’re achievable, and they’re goals we want for ourselves, not goals other people have handed to us.

We should also take time to celebrate what we already have. With toxic masculinity, we might get a promotion and then dive straight into using that higher income to save for a mortgage without coming up for air first.

We can compare ourselves to others and their achievements in an unhealthy way. For example, if a friend or family member gets married before you, you might feel increased pressure to find a partner. We can constantly put ourselves under never-ending pressure.

Let’s stop, reflect, and celebrate ourselves. This is our life. We don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Joy comes in many forms. There are limitless ways to live your life. Do what feels right for you, and know that you are enough.
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